Jul 23, 2012 Written by 
Ever wondered why people soak up every word that a truly successful person says? Or why, they seem to do less talking than the person engaging with them in conversation?

Successful people are unique. They don't need to buy a Ferrari (or any car that is flashy - I am not a car enthusiast so this is the first one that came to mind) to show that they have money, nor will they order the most expensive wine in a restaurant. They typically do not wear obvious designer briefs and they never tell you how good they are or what accomplishments they have made.

Instead, they listen attentively, ask questions and put the spotlight on others.

Someone who is successful and I am talking in the upper echelons of success (i.e. billionaires or at least with 50 million bucks in the bank), are bespoke. Instead of telling you how great they are, they are happy to find out about you and what makes you unique or special.

In my time as an entrepreneur, I have met some of the most amazing people from every imaginable walk of life. I have been fascinated by success and revolted by people who are flashy (and tacky) or who desperately are looking for people to notice them. I always wonder why some people behave like they do and yet the people who really have a few notches on their belts in the success department, stand tall and say very little.

I learnt early on when I first met some seriously successful people that I would walk out of a room and know nothing about them, but somehow I spilled the beans on every aspect of my life. They have an art for asking the right questions, making you feel very comfortable with them and almost familiar rather than a stranger they met five minutes ago.

Successful people also talk slowly. Have you ever noticed that? I am not sure whether that is good education, or that they process what they say and choose their words more wisely.

I have also observed that successful people never put others down. Instead, they support, encourage and promote people that they believe in or have crossed their paths. They happily give up time to speak to people they deem worthy of a conversation, not based on how successful or important they are, but because they are worthy of their time.

Another thing that I have noted about successful people of all ages and that is that they never check their mobile phones when they are talking to you and they don't have facebook accounts. In fact, they don't waste time on things that are not conducive to giving them a better life or improving their knowledge or status quo.

And last but not least, many of the people that I have met that are successful are charismatic. They have an inner confidence and exude strength and positioning. But it is funny that when you actually get to know these people, this intimidating factor is diminished through familiarity and they become just like you and me.

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Mellissah Smith

Mellissah Smith is a marketing expert with more than 20 years experience. Having founded and built two successful marketing companies internationally, she is well recognized as a industry thought leader and innovator. Mellissah started her career working with technology and professional services firms, primarily in marketing, public relations and investor relations, positioning a number of successful companies to list on the various Stock Exchanges around the world. She is a writer, technology developer and entrepreneur who shares her thoughts and experiences through blogs and written articles published in various media outlets. Brag sheet: #2 marketer to follow on Twitter (2003), Top 150 Marketers to Follow (2015), Top 10 innovative marketers (2014), 60K+ followers on Twitter with 97% authentic.

2 comments

  • Wendy Merron
    Wendy Merron
    30/07/12

    Great article, Melissa.
    In my experience successful people also feel good about themselves. In fact, if they didn't feel comfortable with themselves, they couldn't be successful.

    It's also refreshing that they don't need fancy titles or other trappings to make them feel good.

  • Sally Kazanis
    25/07/12

    Successful people have a way of making you feel you are the only important person around. Nothing or no one else matters. I am now using that to judge the character of people. Even though I have a lot of clients I make sure the client I am working with knows they are my only client. As it should be. Great insight and article Mellissah. thanks.
    Sally
    http://www.mustangsallyhorseandpetsitting.com

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